How to Say No | Take Control of Your Life with One Easy Word

How to Say No

Let me show you How to Say No.  With this one easy word “No” comes a new feeling of freedom.  It is hard to say at first, but it is necessary to take back control of my life.  I know that I cannot control everything in my life, so I decided to take control of what I could.  I am not saying that you need to say No across the board, but you can use it as an option without feeling guilty.
Let’s add a new goal to our daily routine, Just say No.  As women, we are expected to be nurturers and we do not want to let anyone down.  I am the worst about always trying to help everyone out.  When people ask me for help or ask me to get involved with something, I tend to immediately say yes.  Recently, I have decided to take more control over my life.  In order to regain that control, I have learned to NO to some requests.
This year has been a year of trying new things for me, so I have added taking control of my life to my list of goals.  It is still a work in progress, but I feel pretty good about it.   I would love to say that it is easy all of the time, but it is not true.  Follow these easy steps on how to say no.
1. Take a Deep Breath
The first step is to take a deep breath and remember that you want to take control of your life.  At this point, your time is completely in your control.   You have every right to maintain that control and do what you think is best.
2. Get Information
The second step is to get as much information as possible.  When someone asks you to help with something, feel free to ask questions.  You need all of the information available, so that you can make an informed decision.  Trust your gut feeling about whether you should get involved.
How to Say No | Take Control of Your Life with One Easy Word
3. Value Your Time
The third step is to make sure that you have time in your schedule to help out.  Look at your calendar with a very discerning eye.  You want to leave enough time to take care of yourself and your family.  It is not necessary to have a completely packed schedule.  You can only help if you are not too stressed and not over scheduled.
4. Make sure you want to help
The fourth step is to make sure that it is something that you can actually help with and that you are interested in.  Your time is precious and you want to spend it doing something worthwhile.  Consider where you want to be in the next 90 days to one year and if this will help you meet that goal.
One of the hardest times to say no is to my kids.  In this day and age, I feel the pressure to try to give my kids every chance possible.  There are alot of things that they ask to do that are just not feasible for any number of reasons.  I tend to be more old school when it comes to my kids.  I give them a lot of leeway about things that they can do, but I do take our family time into account when asked to do things.  If we have had a busy week, I try to keep our weekends calmer, so that we can rest.  Young people want to go, go, go all of the time and my job is to make sure they get the rest that they need.
You want to take control of your life, so that you can do the things that you enjoy.   Always remember that you are the master of your time and you may say no to things!  Saying no does not mean that you are turning someone down, but that you are putting yourself first.  You cannot take care of others if you do not take care of yourself.  Let the work No be empowering to help you make every day better!
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  1. The importance of this never became more clear to me than when I got sick with stomach issues and chronic pain. Picking and choosing what I could do and my priorities is what kept me sane. Not everyone likes it when you have to put yourself or your health first, but that will help separate the people who really want to support you from those who don’t.

  2. I’ve been practicing saying “no.” It’s so liberating!

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